Finding Focus and Flow in 2024 Without Resolutions
As the fresh year stretches before us, the familiar pressure of resolutions looms. We might vow to use our gym memberships more or to finally learn French, and to-do lists lengthen with aspirations for transformation. Yet, for those of us navigating the often-choppy waters of trauma, traditional resolutions can feel overwhelming, triggering old patterns of self-criticism and pressure.
In trauma-informed yoga therapy, we prioritize creating a safe and supportive space for healing and empowerment. This extends beyond the yoga mat, influencing our approach to personal growth and goal setting. So, this year, let's ditch the rigid resolutions and embrace a gentler, more trauma-sensitive practice: setting a word or intention for the year.
Why Words/Intentions Over Resolutions?
Resolutions often focus on outcomes, setting specific, sometimes rigid, goals that can trigger anxiety and shame when unmet. Words or intentions, on the other hand, shift the focus to process and experience. They act as guiding lights, inviting us to approach the year with awareness and mindfulness.
Instead of telling yourself something like "I will learn a new language this year," consider choosing a word related to the theme of that idea, like "culture" or “development”. Your word can invite you to prioritize growth and learning, explore cultures beyond their language alone, and build a healthy relationship trying new experiences. It's an ongoing journey, not a destination, allowing for flexibility and self-compassion in the process.
Trauma-Informed Intention Setting:
Choose a word that resonates with you: Listen to your inner wisdom and let a word emerge organically. Don't be afraid to explore different options until you find one that sparks a sense of connection and excitement.
Focus on positive qualities: Instead of "avoiding triggers," consider "finding more glimmers." This language empowers you to acknowledge challenges while focusing on your inner strength and capacity to cope.
Make it personal and meaningful: Tailor your word or intention to your specific needs and goals. It's all about you and your unique journey.
Integrate it into your yoga practice: Use your word as an anchor or focus of meditation during your yoga sessions. Reflect on it during quiet contemplation, connect it to specific poses, or use it as a theme for breathwork practices.
Practice self-compassion: Remember, there will be days when you stumble or. forget about your intention entirely. Approach yourself with kindness and understanding, and remember that the process itself is valuable.
Beyond the Mat:
Just like your yoga practice, your word or intention doesn't have to stay confined to your yoga mat. Carry it with you throughout your day, letting it guide your choices and interactions. For example, choosing "connection" might inspire you to reach out to a friend, join a community group, or simply offer a smile to a stranger.
Embrace the Journey:
Setting a word or intention for the year is not about achieving perfection. It's about cultivating a mindful approach to growth, honoring your needs, and celebrating small victories along the way. In this spirit, I offer you these closing words from trauma-informed yoga therapist and author Bessel van der Kolk:
"Trauma is not static. It is not something that happened to you in the past; it is something that is happening to you now. And there is something that you can do about it."
So, let's move beyond the pressure of resolutions and embrace the empowering journey of a word or intention for the year. Breathe deeply, connect with your inner wisdom, and step into the year with compassion and grace. May your word be your guiding light as you navigate the path of healing and transformation.
Resources for Trauma-Informed Yoga and Mindfulness:
The Trauma-Informed Yoga Project: https://traumaconsciousyoga.com/tcymethod/
The Center for Mindful Living: https://m.facebook.com/p/The-Northwest-Center-for-Mindful-Living-100063664111867/
The National Center for PTSD: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/